Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Sex Mistakes Women Make

You can keep your man and have fun too. Most women push away the men in their lives by making simple silly mistakes in the sack. A little effort can go a long way in keeping your man and you very happy. Here are a few of the tricks. Avoid these mistakes and you can still make him drool and pant after you.

1. Be a Hot Mama

Who said Motherhood should make you celibate? Instead, you need to see yourself as a hot mama, switching on your hot babe persona the second you get your lover alone. For your sake, for your family’s sake, you need to temporarily forget that you’re known as an asexual “mommy” most of the day. You need to nurture your sex life with as much zest as you put into your childcare. Happy parents make for happy families.

2. Playing dead in the sack

Most of us don’t like to have sex with a corpse. Don’t just lie there ... Move! Make noise. Do anything but play dead! If you want your lover to keep coming back, you need to go beyond the missionary position. You need to communicate your needs — give instructions. Even better, check in with him: Is this O.K.? Do you want more? Be eager to please and to be pleased!

3. Stay feminine

Between major weight gain, bodily functions, and divulging daily care habits, a lot of women fail to remain branded in their men's brains as sexy. While self-care and what we do in the loo is nothing to be ashamed of, keep it in the bathroom. Don’t talk about shaving, your period, your last bowel movement, etc. Strive to stay trim and look your best, and apparently effortlessly at that. While he wants you to be the girl-next-door in so many ways, he also wants to eternally see you as his sex goddess.

4. Don't Judge his porn pleasuring

Unless you’ve been replaced by his passion for pornography, don’t give him a guilt trip for it. Many men enjoy different forms of erotica, often using such visuals to become aroused and, quite frankly, to remain sexually interested in their current partner. Instead of seeing his Playboy or Penthouse as a threat, see it as an enhancement — possibly even one you can share. Such visuals are meant to keep the relationship riveting. Don’t let them create a rift.

5. Talking dirty

The occasional potty mouth can be a passion-inducer. So don’t be shy! Learn to talk dirty. I’m not saying sound like a trucker (unless that’s your thing). But don’t be afraid to get a little filthy. Who knows? You might deserve a good spanking for talking like that.

6. Own your body

Big or small, short or tall, what men find a turn-on more than anything is how a woman carries herself — her confidence. If you’re not owning your body, if you’re not embracing your figure and sexual nature, you fail to flaunt one of your biggest assets — you. So walk around naked. Have sex with the lights on. Learn to embrace the skin you’re in. This will help you boost your sex comfort and his.

7. Bitching other women

Sure, you think she looks like a prostitute. But guess what? He does too — and is most likely loving it. Putting down other women in front of him serves as no more than a sign of insecurity. And that makes you unattractive. Rather than worry about what another gal looks like, focus your energies on keeping his eyes on you.

8. No Head Games

You’re not monogamous till you have the talk. Having sex is no guarantee of anything, including reciprocal feelings, love, and a future. So don’t make any assumptions. Be honest about what you want. Don’t use sex manipulatively. Head games should stay below the belt.

Finally, Don't make these mistakes:

9. Ignoring his nipples

While known as a "girl-thing," nipples can be his thing too. Many men have sensitive nipples. In fact, some men have nipples that are more sensitive than their lovers'. So practice some amorous affirmative action. Go ahead and explore the erotic potential this hot spot holds for him.

10. Using too much teeth

When it comes to oral fixations, this feast should not involve fangs. Teeth scraping is not allowed.

Sex News ...

— Dangerous drinking for better sex. An international study published by BMC Public Health has found that one-third of European men and 23 percent of women admitted to drinking to improve their sex life. Young adults are deliberately using alcohol mixed with drugs to supposedly enhance sex, increasing risks.

— Online flirting is tough. A survey by WooMe is reporting that 72 percent of adults online find e-flirting tougher than wooing in person. Reasons for such: the inability to gauge body language, true chemistry, and physical appearance. Over 60 percent of single adults state that looks are the most likely asset to attract them to someone within minutes of a first introduction.

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