Sunday, May 4, 2008

Boy Girl Share Dorm Room


Studying could be fun if you had a person of the opposite sex sharing your dorm room. Now don't start getting any ideas. Erik Youngdahl and Michelle Garcia share a dorm room at Connecticut's Wesleyan University. But they say there's no funny business going on.

I hope they are studying and also hope that Erik puts the toilet seat down (if he lifts it up in the first place)


They have set up their beds side-by-side and avert their eyes when one of them is changing clothes. (its all in the eyes as they say)

"People are shocked to hear that it's happening and even that it's possible," said Youngdahl, a 20-year-old sophomore. But "once you actually live in it, it doesn't actually turn into a big deal."

In the prim 1950s, college dorms were off-limits to members of the opposite sex. Then came the 1970s, when male and female students started crossing paths in coed dormitories. Now, to the astonishment of some baby boomer parents, a growing number of colleges are going even further: coed rooms.

At least two dozen schools, allow some or all students to share a room with anyone they choose, including someone of the opposite sex. This spring, as students sign up for next year's room, more schools are following suit, including Stanford University.

As shocking as it sounds to some parents, some students and schools say it's not about sex.
Anyways sex can't be on your mind when you have seen the person waking up morning after morning, ask any married couple and they will tell you.

Instead, they say the demand is mostly from heterosexual students who want to live with close friends who happen to be of the opposite sex. Some gay students who feel more comfortable rooming with someone of the opposite sex are also taking advantage of the option.

I think it all boils down to who you are comfy with. Sharing a room with same gender people can be equally distracting and a pain sometimes.

Couples do sometimes room together, an arrangement known at some schools as "roomcest."
Many schools discourage this because it can hurt your studies if there is a serious break up in mid term.

Most schools introduced the couples option in the past three or four years. So far, relatively few students are taking part. At the University of Pennsylvania, which began offering coed rooms in 2005, about 120 out of 10,400 students took advantage of the option this year.


Garcia and Youngdahl live in a house for students with an interest in Russian studies. They said they were already friendly and didn't think they would be compatible with some of the other people in the house.

"I had just roomed with a boy. I was under the impression at the time that girls were a little bit neater and more quiet," Youngdahl said. "As it turns out, I don't see much of a difference from one sex to the other." Garcia, 19, admitted, "I'm incredibly messy."

Parents aren't necessarily thrilled with boy-girl housing. Students do not have to be sharing a room in the campus to have sex.(are you reading this dear parent). In fact it might have advantages in later life. A person will know how to adjust and cohabitate with person of opposite gender. And HEY! you don't have to waste time searching for a date. And whats more, there will be no more lost underwear, he wears HIS and she wears HERS.

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